How to deal with decreased libido


What are the physical problems that cause a woman's sex drive to shift into low gear? Dr. Jennifer Wu, an OB/GYN at Lenox Hill Hospital in New York, describes some of the medical causes for decreased libido, and what to do about them.

How to deal with decreased libido

Are you feeling like you just don’t want to have sex with your partner? If so, you are not alone; many women experience a decrease in sex drive. There are many different factors that can affect your libido. Here’s what you need to know to get your sex life back on track.

  • If you have been experiencing a decrease in your sex drive for over two to three months you should see your doctor to get a full medical checkup to determine if there are any medical reasons that may be negatively impacting your libido. Your doctor will explore if there is something physically wrong with you, or if it is an emotional issue such as your relationship with your partner. You may even have a medical condition and an emotional issue going on simultaneously. For example, depression is a medical condition, yet there is a lot of emotion involved with it.
  • Other possible medical causes include a thyroid disorder, sleep disorders, anti-hypertension medication, psychological medication or any new medications you may be taking.
  • Additionally, if you are going through menopause your libido may suffer due to the sharp decrease in your estrogen and testosterone levels. Specifically, any decrease in estrogen can cause vaginal dryness that can make sex quite painful and thus no question will hamper your sex drive.
  • Postpartum women may also experience a decrease in libido due to a shift in hormones or post partum depression. Breastfeeding, which can cause your estrogen levels to go down, may also be a factor.
  • Having a decreased libido is very common problem among women and it is nothing to be embarrassed about. The best way to get your sex life back on track is to be honest with your doctor about what’s going on in your life.

DENISE:  Hello I’m Denise Richardson for if your woman who’s finding that your sex drive is in neutral or worse there’s a variety or causes for a decreased libido. Some physical, and some emotional. So here to help us sort it all out is gynecologist Jennifer Wu. What happens when your feeling you just don’t want to have sex? When do you take it to the doctor as a medical problem?


JENNIFER:  If patients are experiencing decreased libido ongoing for two to three months than I think they should then see a doctor, get a full medical check-up. The doctor will also probably explore whether there are problems in the relationship at the same time


DENISE:  What are the possible medical causes?


JENNIFER:  Patients having problems with their thyroid or depression or sleep disorder, medications, there are a million different factors that can affect libido.


DENISE:  What about high blood pressure?


JENNIFER:  Actually some of the notorious medications for decreased libido include antihypertisint medications and psychopathic medications.


DENISE:  Are there certain groups that are more susceptible to decreased libido then other groups?

JENNIFER:  We’ll often see women who are going through menopause; they may experience a decrease in libido because they’re having a shape decrease in estrogen and testosterone levels. They may also be experiencing vaginal dryness due to decreased estrogen, and that may make sex quite painful, which can also kill libido. In certain women that are post-pardon who’ve just delivered, they’re having a shift in hormones and they may also have some post-pardon depression If they are breast feeding their estrogen level might go down. They may also have painful sex.

DENISE:  You’re talking about millions of women here?

JENNIFER:  Decrease in libido is a common problem among demon and men, and there are many reasons for it. I think you need to investigate fully in medical causes before you pinpoint solely emotional causes.

DENISE:  What about treatment?

JENNIFER:  Often times when we correct an underlying medical condition like a thyroid disorder patients will start to feel better, have an increase in libido.

DENISE:  Is it possible that you have a medical condition and an emotional condition going on simultaneously?

JENNIFER:  It is a possibility; depression is a medical condition and a medical illness that can be treated with medication. And there is a lot of emotion involved with it and that can definitely affect libido.

DENISE:  So the bottom line here is, if you’re not feeling like you want to have sex with your partner for an extended period of time, fill in this blank, What should you do?

JENNIFER:  You should see your doctor, don’t be embarrassed about talking about libido, be very frank about whets going on in your life.

 DENISE:  Absolutely, Dr. Wu that you very much for being with us. I’m Denise Richardson for

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    Dr. Jennifer Wu Obstetrician-Gynecologist Dr. Jennifer Wu is a practicing board-certified obstetrician-gynecologist in New York City. She is a Fellow of the American College of Obstetrics and Gynecology and a member of the American Medical Association and the New York Country Medical Society. more about this expert »

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