How to teach your daughter not to bully
It may be unthinkable that your sweet little girl could be a bully, but bullies have parents too; so it's not impossible. What can you do? First, get some good advice from Rachel Simmons, author of Odd Girl Out.
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How to teach your daughter not to bully
- First--you have to acknowledge that your daughter is being a bully. Think about girl bullying the same way that you would think about more traditional forms of bullying.
- Girl-bullying can start as early as two and three years old.
- If your daughter hurts someone, emotional or physically, there are three steps: 1) define it as bad behavior, 2) explain to her the concept of empathy, and 3) follow through with the consequences for the bad behavior.
- Give her a comparative definition: define the behavior as wrong by comparing it to something she already knows is wrong. For example, when you tell someone you’re not going to be friends with them anymore, that’s like hitting them and we don’t hit.
- Tell your daughter not to give "subtitles": the silent treatment, eye-rolling, body language, and other nonverbal gesturing that communicates negativity.
- When girls resort to nonverbal ways of expressing their problems, it becomes a bigger issue as they get older and cannot express themselves directly,
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Rachel Simmons Author, Odd Girl Out Rachel Simmons is a best selling author and Founding Director of the Girls Leadership Institute. more about this expert »
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