How to use internet dating websites

Can anybody use the internet to date? It’s perfect for people who don’t date in real life, because there’s so much fear that goes into dating. You’re judged every time you go on a date and you can feel it acutely.

Things to keep in kind, according to Stefan:

• Men often lie about their age and height. Many women want their man to be taller, and in society, tall men are considered more attractive, so men will add an inch or two. If a couple meets, maybe she’ll be charmed by some other aspect of him so she won’t notice the height thing.

• Don’t think of it as lying so much as spinning, or advertising. Accentuating the positive.

• Men go for looks, women go for status. You can be an unattractive man, but if you have high status, you’re more attractive to women. Mostly men look at the pictures and women look at the profiles. Men also read the profiles, but they’re more interested in the woman’s looks, generally speaking.

• When you make an internet date, make it clear that it’s just for one quick drink and then you’re going somewhere afterwards. That way, if you’re not interested in the person you have an out, but if you are interested, you can always say, ‘Let me call my friend and cancel…’ And you can tell in five or six seconds whether there’s any attraction.

• You will find some men who are married who are trying to find dates on the internet. Women have to use their feminine wiles to try to tell if a guy will be a creep or a good guy.

• How to choose the right dating site? Find the one that has questions you’d be comfortable asking.

• Can you solve a relationship void with the internet? The internet is just a tool. You have to date and you have to do it a lot. Even if you hate dating, you’d better find a way to like it. The upside of dating is that if you do it enough, and you do it well, you’ll eventually fall in love.